Springtime ushers in the season of First Communions, and if you’ve received an invitation to partake in this sacred occasion, you might be pondering how best to honor it. This question may be even more pertinent if your faith differs from that of the First Communicant. 


The great news is that the rigid protocols surrounding First Communion have evolved with the times, adopting a more inclusive perspective. Nonetheless, certain etiquette guidelines remain relevant, given the profound spiritual significance of this event for those taking their Communion. 


If you’re a newcomer to the world of First Communions, you could be in the dark about what makes a suitable gift. To help you navigate this thoughtful gesture, we’ve assembled some helpful guidelines for selecting the perfect First Communion gift, along with a few gift ideas for those who may be grappling with the decision. 

What is a First Communion?

First Communion is an important rite of passage in a young person’s spiritual life, one which makes their relationship with God closer and more personal. The holy symbolic sacrament (an act or ritual that helps one to connect with God) is celebrated in some Christian faiths, particularly by members of the Roman Catholic Church and some Protestant Churches. 

Catholic children receive their First Communion around the age of seven or eight, which is considered the age of reason. In Protestant faiths, the children may receive this sacrament between the age of eight and 14 or whenever they start to show a natural curiosity and desire to share in the sacred meal. Adults joining a new faith may also receive a First Communion, although they may choose to do so privately.    

First Communion for children traditionally takes place during the Easter season. The ceremony, which is held during Mass, takes place at the church. Many family choose to celebrate this momentous and sacred occasion with a separate celebration involving food and festivities. 

Should you bring a gift?

Your appearance on the day is the primary expectation, and you may consider your presence present enough. As with other special occasions, a First Communion is a milestone moment and a gift can show your support of their achievement. While not necessary, a First Communion gift is a thoughtful gesture that is sure to be well received by the communicant and their parents.

Most guests who attend a First Communion party will want to arrive with something in hand. If you haven’t been invited to the party, which is often reserved for those who have had a direct impact on the child’s spiritual development, a handwritten card is appropriate.

In terms of First Communion gift etiquette, you’ll want to keep the selection in line with the spiritual importance of the day. Only certain types of gifts for First Communion are considered appropriate. For instance, you’ll want to save the video games for a birthday party or gift-giving holiday.

Typically, the parents, grandparents or godparents purchase the cross and chain gift, so you may want to check with the family first before giving jewelry. Some communicants choose to give their godparents a gift on First Communion. Although it is not required, it is a meaningful gesture that can strengthen their lifetime bond.   

Is money an acceptable gift?

If you are having trouble choosing a gift, a monetary gift is always appropriate. Many parents put the money in a special savings account for their children. You may consider a small token gift such as a stuffed animal for the child to enjoy, while their parents set the money aside for later.

Many commercial First Communion cards contain a holder for cash, which is the most appropriate form to present a monetary gift. You could also purchase a savings bond that matures when the child will be attending college.

An amount between 20 and 50 dollars is in line with the occasion, although those closest to the First Communicant (such as grandparents or godparents) may give upward in the range of 200 dollars. The amount may also depend on the choice of venue. For parties held at a restaurant, you may wish to take the cost of food into consideration when choosing how much to gift.

The gift of money is a good choice if you are part of the circle of extended family and friends, and do not know the child well. It’s also a good option if you aren’t part of the family’s church, and don’t feel comfortable bringing a religious gift.

Gifts ideas for boys

There are few moments more special in a young boy’s life than the day he celebrates his First Communion. He is sure to appreciate a gift that reflects his faith and commitment to God. 

Gift ideas for girls

Jewelry is a popular option for a girl, but any thoughtful or personalized gift that shows how proud you are of the young woman she is becoming will make her feel special and loved. in the moment is the best gift you can give, but a lasting religious keepsake, especially one personalized with the a name and First Communion date will be cherished by the Communicant for years to come.



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